That brings me to the title of this post. For those who aren't familiar with the term, "jinx" according to Wikipedia refers to bad luck brought on by:
- Talking about a future event with too much confidence. A statement such as "We're sure to win the contest!" can be seen as a jinx because it tempts fate, thereby bringing bad luck. The event itself is referred to as "jinxed". A dramatic historical example of this type of jinxing is the Titanic, which was said to be unsinkable, then sank on its maiden voyage.
- In a similar way, calling attention to good fortune – e.g. noting that a certain athlete is having a streak of particularly good fortune – is thought to "jinx" it. If the good fortune ends immediately afterward, the jinx is then blamed for the turn of events.
So the very next day, Monday, we received one of those dreaded "unexpected emails from SCI" that I wrote about in my last post:
We hope you are doing well.
We would like to inform you that your surrogate mother Meera was admitted in the hospital yesterday due to bleeding.
In regards to the same our obstetrician team has reviewed & put her under necessary care and medications.
We have also sent her blood and urine investigation to the lab.
She is on complete bed rest & we are keeping very close eyes on her pregnancy.
We are taking very good care of her and our obstetrician has been checking her on regular intervals.
As soon as we receive any new updates, we will inform you ASAP.
We will keep you updated with her further progress & new status.
With Best Regards,Yogita
We are obviously worried out of our minds, since we are so far away and feel helpless in this situation. We frantically Googled "bleeding" and "pregnancy" and "9 weeks" to find out everything we could, just to conclude that it was inconclusive--sometimes it results in miscarriage and sometimes it doesn't. We sent SCI an email with some follow up questions, relaying our concern that Meera wasn't in any pain or discomfort, and hoping that her son and husband were ok and not worrying as much as we were.
We also sent Meg and Margarida an email with some questions, SCI's historical outcomes with this, and what to expect. We want to thank BrooklynCouple as we knew they recently went through this (their surrogate is fine now and they just recently passed the first trimester!); they were amazing with the details and helped to comfort and calm us a bit after I emailed them freaking out (I seem to be doing this a lot these days).
We would be interested to know anyone else's experience with bleeding in the third month of pregnancy. You can leave a comment, point us to another blog, or email us (address in our blogger profile).
I can't help but feel a bit like we jinxed ourselves, and I wish we had waited to tell our families. They were so happy for us, but now we may have to deliver some heart-breaking news. We have decided to wait a few days before telling them that Meera is in the hospital, hoping that everything improves quickly. I guess I kind of half-expected that after all that we went through to finally get pregnant, that we were owed a trouble-free pregnancy. But I know that's not how it works. We just have to wait, hope, pray, and stay calm and positive.