Friday, October 11, 2013

They Don't Prepare You

It has been such a long journey to meet our daughter, beginning from before she was born, when she was only the ache that we had wishing for a child, by two gay men who had thought it was impossible.

That journey culminated yesterday when we picked up our daughter from the hospital.  We thought we knew what to expect.  We saw other parents with their children every day, and we met former "IPs" returning with their new babies.  We heard their stories, nodded at their advice, soaked it all in.

But they don't prepare you for meeting your own child for the first time.

They don't prepare you for the overwhelming feeling of joy mixed with equal parts wonder, love and gratitude.

They don't prepare you for the softness--not just of the baby, but of your own being, melting into a puddle before this little creature.

They don't prepare you for the true terror of the immense responsibility that comes with caring for your child in a world that suddenly becomes more dangerous.

They don't prepare you for being transformed into the biggest idealist and crusader for changing that world into a better place for your children.

They don't prepare you, because it's an indescribable experience.



Is there anything more precious than a baby's chubby cheeks and neck rolls?

"OK Dads, enough with the hair bows!"




16 comments:

  1. Oh my goodness - she is sooooooooo beautiful!!! Congratulations!! You guys are going to have so much fun with this little girl and she is so lucky to have two dads that are going to spoil and protect her and love her to pieces!

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  2. Aaaah she is so pretty. Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  3. Gorgeous, and so cute. Congratulations guys.

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  4. Grin on my face - I knew what this post was about purely from the title. Nothing, ever can prepare you for meeting and taking sole responsibility for your child. It's the most powerful feeling ever, isn't it? And yep, chubby cheeks are DIVINE.

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  5. So very precious! Congratulations guys. We await your return and our formal introduction to Audrey. She is absolutely beautiful!!!

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  6. Oh..look at those cheeks! She is gorgeous! Congrats!

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  7. She is so cute!!!! I am very happy for you!
    Ana.

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  8. Congratulations!!!!! I know exactly what you mean. All the emotions just melt into absolute undying love----like a love you have never had before! !!! Enjoy she is gorgeous!

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  9. Congratulations, this is so wonderful Awesome cheeks Audrey, I bet they are getting a lot of kisses.

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  10. I have tears reading this. Bless her, she sure is one lucky little princess. You both will be amazing fathers. Congrats! X

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  11. Congrats you guys! Audrey is so lucky to have two awesome dads that love her so much.

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  12. Simply adorable. Congrats guys. Holding your babies for the first time is one magical moment for a parent.

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  13. I'm so sorry I did not see your post before, i just was looking at my computer and i said to my husband oh god Ben and Travis have had their baby. She is gorgeous, congratulations I am SO happy for you both xxx

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  14. she is amazing so happy for you both, just beautiful and she is lucky to have you both, happy future together so very happy for you all. The bows look gorgeous

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